And I'm Keepin' It Real...
Earlier today I was cleaning my house, and I thought to myself,
"You know? Someone's got to tell it like it is!"
That is what motivated me to get back on the blogging scene (which I really have missed, by the way), and THAT is what has motivated me to start the very first WEEKLY
"Keepin' It Real Friday" blog entry.
#1 - "THE BEST JOB IN THE WORLD"
So here's the story:
I'm sitting at my computer one evening, checkin' out facebook. Post after post after post from friends stating that THEY have "The Best Job in the World." What is that job? We can all chime in together and say it... A MOM! Pictures of my friends with their beloved angels, happy as can be. Pictures of kisses, funny faces, smiles, laughs, funny hats, cute babies, YOU NAME IT... it was there. The sheer
of these posts got me thinking...
(A couple months later):
I'm still reading these same kinds of posts over and over again until FINALLY I say out loud for Bryan to hear, "C'mon! Really??!!! No way do that many people really believe that being a mom is.... 'The Best Job in the World!' I mean, seriously... how can they really say that?" It's trying, it can be boring, it is exhausting, it's not glamorous, you get paid NOTHING, and you get told "No" all day long. How is that the best job ever?
I don't know about these people, but my idea of the best job in the world is one where I'm sipping Pina Coladas (virgin, of course) while at Disneyland.
You see, I don't know if that job exists,
BUT HEY! SIGN ME UP IF IT DOES!
THAT'S the kind of job that would get me to wake up in the morning and say,
"My gosh, I have the best job in the world."
Call me crazy, but I don't say that sentence when I'm:
- Changing Diapers and wiping bums
- Up in the wee hours of the morning trying to get a wee little human to fall back asleep because of a) a nightmare, b) they're hungry/thirsty, c) they've got to go to the bathroom, d) the thunder scared them, e) "they're just not tired."
- Woken up in the morning by a scream and a whine for breakfast
- Dealing with temper tantrums
- Getting yelled at
- Getting kicked
- Getting sneezed on
- Not being listened to
- Breaking up a fight
- Getting pulled at
- Getting whined at
- Getting asked for money
- Trying to teach manners
- Listening to the attitude they have because they got put in time out
- Having things thrown at me
- Cleaning up ALL. DAY. LONG!
Tell me you get the picture. The list really goes on and on. Being a mom is truly the HARDEST job I've ever had. And it's not really because of the above list, but it's mainly because you are the person who is responsible for the way they turn out as an adult... that's a lot of pressure! Just wait till your
3 year-old starts dropping the F-bomb (in the CORRECT context, mind you). AND NO, HE DIDN'T LEARN IT FROM ME! You'll see what I'm talking about then. You have to discipline in a loving, but stern way. You have to make sure they know you mean business, but that they also know you love them more than words can describe. You have to give them choices, but not let them roam free. I'm learning all of this as a parent, yet they're still all under 5!!!! Just THINK of what I will have to learn when they hit puberty and get into their teenage years. Oh my....
Now, don't get me wrong... I love these three more than words can even describe. My life would not be the same without them, and my entire world would collapse around me if I lost one, but that doesn't mean that I would say that being their mom is the greatest, MOST WONDERFULLEST job ever! I will admit, it is probably the most rewarding job I've ever had. However, it also comes with the most exhaustion I've ever experienced too.
Someone will argue, "But you didn't list all of the good things that happen as a mom! Those things are what makes it the best job in the world!"
No need to. Check out FB. Everybody and their dog does it for me. THAT'S MY POINT!!!
LET'S KEEP IT REAL!
I mean... seriously, do we moms really wake up every morning thinking, "Yes! I get to do the same thing I did yesterday!" If you do, then more power to ya. You are better than I.
This leads me to my last and final point - the pressure of social media. Why are we so scared to write how we are really feeling? Fear of argument? Rejection? Judgement? De-friending (heaven forbid)? Why am I expected to post that this is the best job in the world if I don't really feel like it is?
Am I a bad mom because I don't think so?
Quite frankly... I'm pretty dang good. ;)
But here's my point... Depression among women is sky high! We are so good at comparing ourselves to others that it has become ingrained in us. How can we out-do the other person, or worse... OH NO! THEY OUT-DID ME!!! Women know how to "fake it till they make it." We put on a happy face, tell everyone we are wonderful, judge EVERYONE who says life isn't perfect, and constantly post things on our statuses and blogs that will make others feel like our lives are heavenly. Well... I'm calling BLUFF!
I'm begging MOMS all over the world to help me out in "Keepin' it Real."
Couldn't we solve so many more problems, as well as cultivate so many more friendships if we admitted that our lives weren't perfect? What if I looked at your perfect facebook page and thought to myself that there must be something wrong with me because I don't LOVE to play cars with my boy for three hours straight (IT'S TERRIBLE!!!! 5 minutes is my limit).
All I'm saying is this... Children are the Refiner's Fire.
I am a better person now than I EVER would be without them. I was better with one than I was with none, better with two than with one, and now better with three than I was with two. However, I have been tested more and more with each one as well (and I know more is coming).
Some people may have read this and thought, "She's got it all wrong."
I'm going to venture a guess though, that I am actually in the majority.
I'm simply "Keepin' It Real." Telling you like it is. Being a mom is well.....
Do I truly believe I have the best job in the world?
Yes I do.
But I don't believe I'll really know it enough to post it on FB until I'm a Grandma.
Signing off.... <3