A Caribbean Mess

A Caribbean Mess

Friday, December 7, 2012

Keepin' It Real Friday: "Why Are Some Women Just So Mean and Nasty?"

I know..... I know.....

Let it Be Known!
I missed a week of my "weekly" Keepin' It Real entries 
(after only two weeks). 
Forgive me???

   How can you resist a face like that?
To anyone who actually does read my entries (I think I know of 5 LOL...), I truly am sorry. :(

Quick Recap? Last Friday
  • Up at 5:30 am to clean the kitchen, sweep, mop and clean the bathrooms. You want anything done around here? Has to be before the kids wake up, or after they go to sleep.     
  • 9 am, I hosted preschool.  
  • 11 am - lunch and babysitting (for a dear friend, and I WOULD do it again, so she knows!)  
  • 2 pm - clean up the house again. 
  • 3 pm - make tortillas for dinner and clean kitchen.  
  • 4pm - make playdough and clean up kitchen.
  • 5 pm - make dinner. 
  • 6:30pm - fight children to go to sleep. 
  • 7 pm - clean house and kitchen.
  • And 8 pm - Start writing in my blog (write, delete, write, delete, write, delete... we'll get to that.) 
  • 11pm - Ticked that I still have NOTHING... 
  • 11:30 pm - give it up and go to sleep.

Literally, that was my day last Friday. In fact, that's what most of my days are like now (minus the blogging). No joke. Many people have asked me what having three kids is like, and that's it. No breathing room, no time for yourself.... literally. I used to think that's how it was when I only had one, but no. I didn't get it then. And I'm sure people with older kids, with more than three, or single parents, who are working and raising their children alone, are thinking I still don't know what hard is. It's all relative. I know some people think I'm over-exaggerating. Oh, believe me. I'm not. I'm not saying my life isn't easy in so many ways, but don't think for a second that any decision I make in my life are selfish anymore. I don't have time to make selfish decisions. 
But THAT... is for a different "Keepin' It Real" post. 

That's not the topic I'm feelin' today.

Today... I want to get to the nitty gritty...

#3 "Why Are Some Women Just So Mean and Nasty?" 

Okay... So Here's the HONEST TRUTH!

The reason I was writing for three hours last week is because I started worrying about offending someone. I kept writing stuff and then thought, "I can't write that!" 

But tonight... I don't care. For many reasons:  
  1. I'm speaking the truth, and if someone doesn't like it, it's probably because they are part of the problem. 
  2. It's my blog. Get off it if you don't like it.
  3. Anyone who really knows me, knows that a new thing ticks me off every 30 minutes, and I'm not afraid to wear my emotions on my sleeve.
  4. If you don't love that about me, find a new friend because...  
  5. More people like that about me than people who don't.   
  6. I can't write as though I'm someone I'm not. It wouldn't be me. 
  7. This is a "Keepin' It Real" post! HEL-LO-O???? Nuff said.  
So... Moving O-on...
What is Wrong With Women??? 
 Where is this coming from? I'll tell you where it's coming from. I know a woman who is "supposed" to be "close" to me who has yet to call my TWO YEAR-OLD daughter, cute. 
You mean to tell me that my daughter who has a personality bigger than life itself has never made you think she's cute? Even in the slightest?!!!
I'm sorry. This face? Not cute? You're right. She's not. 
She's Absolutely Gorgeous!!!!
I know she's mine and all, and I'm supposed to think that, but I don't have to think it. I know it.
So what's the problem? Why can't I just drop this friend? It's too complicated, AND she's not the only one who's done it, AND that's not what matters right now. The problem is this... 
SOMEWHERE along the line, SOMEONE  told women that if they compliment someone else, they devalue themselves....           or something.
What is the Deal?!!!
 I ask for your forgiveness in advance as I will have MANY posts in the future encompassing this same thought. 
Just PLEASE tell me what it is about women that think we feel as though we have to be the best at everything? The best looking, the best dressed, the most popular, the best cook, the best mom with the best marriage, the best job, the best proposal story, the best dressed children, etc, etc, etc. But seriously, who the heck ingrained in our heads that being "the best" is all that matters?
Now Don't Get Me Wrong!
This is not all women! Notice my title says SOME! 
And I'm thinkin' 
It's Gotta Stop!!!!
 Some women are way too negative about themselves - put themselves down WAY too often. It's sad.
It's just as sad, however, when you watch and listen to other women who put others down to try to make themselves feel better.
But I'm not even talking about them either! (Today)
I'm talking about the silent women. The women who will ONLY talk positive about their own children, house, husband, food, job, money, you name it... but won't SAY A WORD about ANYTHING good that happens to anyone else. 

So.... What is it?!
I've got one answer and one only. 
There really is no other explanation. When we can't be happy for someone else's successes, it really only means one thing - we are just mad that whatever it was didn't happen to us. 
Why Do I Know?
Because I'm "Keepin' It Real" and I have felt these same emotions. 
However!!!! I have stopped them before they've taken control of my actions!
What a sad life it would be to lead - happy when others are sad, silent and writhing inside when others are happy? Sure doesn't sound fun to me.
 Is it just me? Am I the only one who has come in contact with these women?
    Last point of all....

I don't care who you are. 
Children are PEOPLE! 
People who need love and respect. People who need to know other people care for them. People who need to hear they are beautiful, charming, smart and funny!
PEOPLE like YOU and ME!  

So to you women I say... How dare you?!!
 How dare you compare my child to yours?
How DARE you disrespect my children because you're afraid it will make your children look less special!
EVERY child is beautiful. Every child is smart. Every child has something to offer this world. Every child is needed for some grand purpose. Your child is no better than anyone else's. And NO compliment you give to any other child is hurting YOUR child. As long as you are still building your child up while complimenting the others, you will be doing nothing but teaching your children how to be HAPPY for other people's successes. 
    EVERY Woman and Child Is Beautiful. 
Signing off... <3 



  1. Wow, I could have written this post... I see it with teaching too. Like it's a competition, and you can't say NICE JOB on "whatever" award?

    I think ENVY is pretty poisonous. Figuring out where it stems from and stopping it is the hard part. Nice job on catching it in yourself. That's tough

    1. So true! I find it everywhere! I feel like when people can't be happy when good things happen to other people, there is a real problem.

      And Thanks. It was really hard to get down to the bottom of it, and it sucks trying to catch it. Sometimes it's just easier to let it go, but it'll be worth it in the long run, I suppose. :)

  2. You are right she is beautiful :)

  3. Amen... Love this and love all that you wrote. It's the honest to gosh truth though. Love you and miss you keep your head up. Your kids are adorable and beautiful and loving you can see that they are full of life itself!

    1. Thank you so much! That's so sweet of you to say! I feel that way and I know other people see it in my kids too, but the hardest part for me is trying to continuously be nice to these people when they are disrespectful or rude to my family, you know? Thanks for the words of encouragement! They're a huge help!

      For the record... I'm in LOVE with your kids too! ;)

  4. Girl! I noticed you missed a week! SO it took me forever to comment on this because it hits SO CLOSE to home with me! My cousin (the mama of the baby girl in those pictures I just put on facebook) has never told me once that either of my boys are cute. In fact at the hospital when Cody was born she said to my sister "Aww so ugly!" But she will call my grandma and tell her that I put cute stuff of the boys on facebook, but she has never "liked" a single picture or video! Why ya gotta be such a hater?!?!?